I’ve spoken about this a while back a wee bit, although I did not elaborate nor discuss it. Anger has such a profound affect on an individual its amazing most people do not see it. The emotion, anger, is a passion. It is a flame within that drives you to enact upon, even if those actions are not the ones you intend. That is why people call it a blind rage.
Over the past couple years I have grown more intuitive to my own emotions and to the emotions of others. My ability to detect the subtle hints of anger in others has allowed me to prevent many outburst from friends, coworkers, and even strangers. Also more importantly prevent myself from enacting in a vexed manner.
More to the point of this post I will like to speak about how anger impacts you. Many a time, I will see coworkers get irked by a simple matter, that could easily be resolved if they thought about it in a slightly different way. The idea of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes, is an eternal thought. Though it solely works when the person realizes that it needs to be done.
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” -Viktor Frankl
One thing you should try to exercise, is your personal control when angry. Even if it takes a while to cultivate, just be conscious with your actions. If they’re not what you would normally do, but you’re so angry you’re gonna do them anyways, then only you can stop yourself. Slap yourself if you have to, the only way to relieve yourself from a blind rage is to open your eyes to the situation at hand. Let your mind take over, and let your emotions settle, or at least for that time being be put on the side burner.
A temporary relief may be the very thing you need to prevent yourself from making a mistake you will greatly regret later. Listen to your intuition, even if the person that vexed you is wrong. If the situation is that important, then either wait till each of you have calm heads, or simply try to state your case in a way the other will understand from their point of view.
Control your mind.
In the end, the only thing you’re going to be able to change is yourself. No matter how much you try you cannot change others. One thing to keep in mind though is that you CAN influence others to make the right notion.
Thank you for reading, and be sure to leave a comment on your idea to control your anger!